How Not To Let Thing Bother You

 Going back to the year 2020, it wasn't just the pandemic part that had me worried but also other things that would trigger me. Of course it wasn't just that one year but even during the years before. I often find myself being triggered so easily, even at petty issues. And due to that, I stress out, argue a lot and could even go days without speaking to anyone. 

    But then I realized, things will always be the way they are and it is I who must deal with the stressful, worrisome things in my life. So, I began to wonder on how to not let certain things bother me. Each of us respond to obstacles and challenges in different ways. I may have a few suggestions to that and have also tried them out.

1. Acknowledge

    It is the first step to knowing that there are some things beyond your control. When you acknowledge a situation as it is, without you realizing, you're actually setting yourself free. You avoid making yourself to feel like a failure when you are unable to change that situation. 

2. Journaling

    Some thing are better written than said. Believe me, I've tried and it helps put my mind off. Every time I'm mad about someone or something, or when I am in a difficult situation, I would write those feelings, and frustrations on a paper. Then, I would seal them in an envelope and place them in a box with all my other written notes. It does only help be get better at writing, but it also avoids be from showing my rage towards others. 

3. Exercise Mindfully

    When some things bother you too much that you are unable to throw them out of your mind, you should move that thoughts and put them into an exercise. When I'm bothered, I would do some chores, do the dishes, clean my room or sometimes talk to my pet bird. After all that chores, I would definitely feel exhausted and would opt for a good rest. In that way, I don't have time to think about what bothers me.

4. Do What You Can

    You may not entirely control the situation but there are some parts you can handle. For instance, make a plan, see what you can do at that very moment. Don't waste time and energy pondering on that problem. 

5. Connect To The Energy Around You

    Try quieting your mind and allow yourself to be in the moment around you. It can be yoga, religious prayers or just a quiet space, take a break and allow yourself to absorb positive energy from within and once you're down, it is like clicking on the restart button. I do that most of the time. I unwind myself through prayer, soft music or just a quiet space. I take in a deep breath and exhale them out strong. I look at things around me like trees, birds, nature, kids and other stuff. It helps me stray away from the problem.

6. Find What Makes You Happy

    Your happiness is what must matter the most. Being happy might not take away the whole problem but it will help you fight against negativity. I noticed when I'm bothered, I began ranting or murmuring a lot and of course it's a negative talk. But when I surround myself with things that make me happy, be it food or people I love, I find it easier in letting negativity go. 

7. Reframe

    Often when we're in a negative situation, we tend to be stuck from thinking further. Being stuck does not allow you to further think. Here I would suggest that you take a stand for yourself. Know what you are facing and know what you want. Then, find a solution for it and make it happen. I went through a tough time with certain people bothering me (to be precise, back-stabbers). I found it hard to let go because I felt that if I let go, I would be alone. But then I took a stand for myself. I decided that if I don't let go of the negative people I am with, I cannot move forward. It was then I decided to cut off ties with few people. And to be honest, it was at first tough, but now I feel as if I am able to breath again. I feel great and whatever talks or thoughts they have about me, does not really bother me because I know who I am and what I want. 

    So you see, there are solutions to such situation. We are bound to get annoyed, frustrated, tensed but we must also know we can handle them. It may not look easy for a start but when you stay strong, you can surely see the benefit of it.